Cyber Stalkers.....

Cyber-space is a really scary place. I know that I CHOOSE to post my life for the world to see and leave myself open to all the nut jobs that it holds. And granted, in our own ways we ALL cyber stalk people that we know...and even some that we don't. However.....the last thing I expected when posting a lovely little review of Mamma Mia in where I reminisce back to a time with someone special....to have a nasty comment posted by his current on again/off again g-friend. This girl has been cyber-stalking me for almost 2 years. And now she has found my blog. As always, I am taking the high-road. I never respond to her directly...I simply notify him of her appalling behavior and let him "handle" it. But this time....my only retaliation, which is also my only outlet....is this blog.

My intention is not to get into the nitty-gritty details. Nor to divulge my relationship (current or past) with this man....or hers for that matter either. It is simply to vent...and if some understanding is reached...then all the better. I tread gently and wearily....

I can not for the life of me, understand the mentality of someone who has nothing better to do than Google me. Nor someone who has a relationship with someone that they don't trust. Without trust, you have NOTHING! I have no interest what-so-ever in being with this man again. I wasted 6 years with him ...and now, apparently she is going down that same path with him. If anything I feel sorry for her. He is doing the EXACT same thing to her that he did to me. Those of you who know me and him KNOW what that is....no need to post it here. She should know that I have told him many times NOT to do it...to spare her. In many ways, I can't blame her for being jealous of me....to an extend. He did NOT tell her up front that we were friends. That we kept in touch and even spent time together occasionally. That was HIS wrong-doing...not mine.

I have always remained friends with my exes. My feeling is this....there was something that we liked about each other before we fell in love, tormented each other and finally broke up. There was a core, basic friendship that existed and still does. That doesn't end just because we didn't work out as a couple. I enjoy keeping up with their lives and having them in mine as well. The men I date have always understood that and if they didn't....well, I wouldn't date them anymore. He and I were together for a VERY long time and went thru A LOT together. We have remained friends for the 4 years since we broke up. We have never gotten back together since then...nor will we ever. I am NOT in love with him, nor is he in love with me. I DO however care about him greatly and he will always have a special place in my heart...as I will in his.

Up until recently the only one of my exes that I had NOT kept in contact with was my ex from high school. And thanks to Facebook...we just saw each other this weekend for the 1st time in 20 years! It was surreal, to say the least. But it was VERY cool too. We have been chatting for about a month and have subsequently developed a very different friendship than we ever had in high school. We are completely different people than we were 20 years ago. I've really enjoyed getting to know him again. Despite public outcry, there were no sparks...and that's OK...really!! We will continue to be friends though, and I am quiet happy and content with that.

In the meantime...I go out. I date. I am open to what the world has to offer me...MAN wise. Sadly....it's not much. But no matter how poor my options are...I would NEVER knowingly go after someone else's man...it's not my style. And I truly believe that Karma is a B*TCH! So think about that next time you cyber-stalk someone! ;-)